My Ex Wants Space But Responds To Texts

Question: I have been trying to get back my ex for the last 4 months. He responds and sometimes initiates contact. We are okay for a couple of days or weeks, then he tells me he wants space. But after 3 days I contact him again and he responds. I am confused, why does he tell me he needs space but continues to respond?

Yangki’s Answer: Most of the time when an ex asks for time/space, they are not necessarily asking you not to contact them. They want you to back off from trying to get them back,  stop putting pressure, stop being needy, stop fighting – or whatever it is that they want you to stop doing. It doesn’t always mean they want you to go away.

My advice is next time he he says e wants space, ask him or what him what he means. You might be surprised that all he means is to stop bringing up the old  relationship, stop starting fights, or stop asking about getting back together.

Asking your ex what he or she means or how much time he or she needs helps both. If you need to make changes, you know exactly how much time you have to make those changes (or at least do enough to change) so that when you re-establish contact, your ex can see you changed for the better.

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