Science says that because we breathe, we think, we feel, we grow, metabolize, can move, and are capable of reproduction that we are living beings, but our lives (especially our love lives) tend to tell a different story. In fact, what’s going on in our lives tells a story of what is going on in our relationships.
See if you can figure out where you are on the Aliveness Index:
THE DEAD ZONE
When you are in the DEAD zone you’ll know it. Most of your important needs are not being met and you are suffering with the knowledge that you are living a life that you don’t want and does not reflect who you truly are. You may even have it all (money, career, family, friends) but still feel “soul starved,” “overwhelmed,” “burned-out” or “beaten up” by life. You have no energy most of the time and feel depressed, angry and worthless. You feel stuck, stifled and bored to death. You’ve basically lost any sense of genuine excitement for life and have numbed or tuned out. You’re having a walking-dead experience – but may be don’t even know it.
THE STRUGGLING ZONE
When you are in the STRUGGLING zone, you are like most people, sleepwalking in the matrix with very few of your needs met and doing the same thing today that you did yesterday. You make decisions based solely on habit, tradition, obligation, responsibility or the expectations of others. You sense that you are not living the life you were meant to live and that there is much more to life than you are now experiencing but you feel that the life you long for is just a dream out of your reach. You keep telling yourself “one day I’ll get myself out of this nightmare of a life” and even know what you need to do, but just not doing it. Everything seems so hard — life sucks!
THE AWAKENING ZONE
When you are in the AWAKENING zone, your sort of awake but not fully woken up. You have a pretty good idea of what you want in life and most of your needs are being met. You fully understand that with some insightful and independent support you can get more of the kind of life you want and deserve. And you see that anything is possible and are quite happy with who you are becoming. But you also waste quite a bit of time swinging from kicking your own ass for wasting so much time in the past or for having been naive or foolish to trying to understand the why behind everything and back to kicking your own ass. Being so hard on yourself and living in your head is preventing you from truly opening up to the fullness of just being alive.
THE FULLY ALIVE ZONE
You are living a conscious life that honors who you are and fully reflects the values and aspirations most important to you. You feel fully connected to those you love, fully engaged to life itself and are living a life that is an expression of human warmth and beauty of the inner and outer self. You have exceptional wisdom and foresight that helps you meet life’s challenges head on and with candor, wit, healthy vulnerability and confidence. And although your life is overflowing with peace, joy, gratitude, serenity, happiness and love, you understand the value of routinely investing in yourself because you know that there is no limit to the abundance of life (but again, you already knew that).
Now, just how alive are you? Hmm?