It hurts when someone you want to be with doesn’t …

Comment on Will My Ex Change His Mind And Want Me Back? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

It hurts when someone you want to be with doesn’t want to be with you. From your comment I see that you have decided to move on. My advice is take your time to properly grieve the loss of your dream. Sit with things for a while – do not try to rush the pain. Complete acceptance of what is makes moving on easier than if you try to force yourself to move on.

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Will My Ex Change His Mind And Want Me Back?
It’s possible that the nights together was about feelings… but it’s also possible he just wanted to have sex with you. Ex sex is very tempting 1) It’s familiar, no surprises there and 2) it can be easy to get.

I highly doubt this is a case of “scared him away” more like remembered why the two of you are broken up. His statement “Maybe you should change the past” is more like something someone who is angry, doesn’t trust you or doesn’t like something about the “past” would say.

Stop trying to “band aid” the old relationship and start things afresh. Start dating him again and show him you are not the person he broke up with. Anything else is just a waste of time.


Will My Ex Change His Mind And Want Me Back?
I agree… it’s hard. My advice is listen to your heart until it says otherwise. But don’t be in denial, look at the facts of your situations for what they are.

Acceptance is not the same as resignation or giving up. Acceptance simply means ceasing the pointless spinning of our wheels long enough to see more clearly what options we have. There may be some other option out there that you have not considered – but when you’re resisting and flipping about, it’s hard to see the way forward.


Will My Ex Change His Mind And Want Me Back?
Having or lacking the courage to do something is entirely up to you. I’m the last person to try to push forward someone who doesn’t want to move. It’s a lot of work. You do what you believe is the best for you.

I have to correct something though… when I talk of acceptance I’m not talking of “giving up”. Giving up is admitting helplessness. Acceptance on the other hand is recognizing that things are not working out the way you intended or wanted but that doesn’t mean you’re helpless. Sometimes acceptance is as simple as choosing to give up being miserable and resigned, and changing the way you are trying to get what you want.


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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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