Question: If I leave my ex alone will he miss me? He says if down the road he misses me, we can be friends again. But for now he doesn’t miss me, and doesn’t want to be friends.
I’m not a bad person, I was just very upset and acted very badly when we broke up but I have apologized and he still will not forgive me. I have dated other guys but this is the only guy who treated me like a queen. Do you think that if I leave my ex alone he will miss me? Maybe if I let time pass and not bother him; later he and I can be friends even if we can’t be together. He is friends with all his exes, so he has a history of not burning bridges. This is why I fell in love with him, he has a very kind and open heart. Please help, I don’t know what to do.
Yangki’s Answer: Some exes will miss you if you leave them alone and give them time; but others say “give me time to miss you” because they have made up their minds they don’t want you back. In your specific case, there is a slight chance that leaving your ex alone will make him miss you; and want to be friends again.
The reason I say there is a slight chance is because your ex specifically said, “if down the road he misses you:: which means that there is a part of him that thinks it may happen. Not all exes leave the door open for the possibility to miss you down the road.
From what you say, it looks like his impression of you right now is that of the “crazy ex”. If down the road that impression changes, then may be there is a possibility that you will become friends. I just can’t say with 100% certainty, yes or no!
Desperately trying to prove to him that you are not a bad person will not help. If he’s asked you specifically not to contact him, then respect his wish. It might just well be what will prove to him that you are not as ‘crazy’ as he might think.
But if he’s not asked you not to contact him, and you stop all contact, it confirms to him that your apology was just to try to get your way, and when that didn’t work, you thought you’d get back at him by cutting off all contact.
For everyone else there reading this. If you’re asking, “Will my ex miss me if I leave him alone?”; or are thinking of leaving your ex alone hoping that he will miss you, and come back; you may be self-sabotaging your chances of getting back your ex.
There are many factors including if you had formed a strong bond; how long you were together; why you broke up; and if you’re ex is seeing someone else that may not make your ex miss you. Weigh your chances very carefully. You may realize months down the road that trying to make your ex miss you, ruined your chances of getting back together.
But if your ex says they want you to leave them alone and maybe it will make them miss you, that’s a different story.