Question: Ever since we broke up over 2mos ago, my ex has been posting love quotes on Facebook. Most of them are about moving on and loving again. I haven’t posted anything on Facebook about her or the breakup. So yesterday she posts something about never being more in love this time around. Well, it’s been only 3 weeks since we broke up. Could she really have met someone that quick and deeply fallen in love? Btw, we were together for 4 years on and off.
Yangki’s Answer: Before I answer your question, I just want to say, don’t believe everything your ex says on Facebook, especially immediately after a break-up. Anyone trying so hard to project a happy exterior while deep inside hurting is being emotionally dishonest — and should be treated with suspicion.
Any “happy” talk of the break-up is 99% of the time a mask for how she (or he) is really feeling, attention-seeking mental games, or a silly attempt to get back at you/make you hurt as much as they are hurting.
My advice is don’t respond or react in anyway. It will only encourage her to do what she is doing because she thinks it’s working. Remember the saying “hurting people hurt people”, she can only hurt you if you give her permission to hurt you.
The other reason not to react in anyway is that it’ll force her to start the process of healing instead of distracting herself from the pain.
But just for argument’s sake, let’s say she has met someone. If she thinks she’s already so deeply in love with him, it’s not a good sign for the rebound relationship, for her personally and for any future relationship with you. People who fall in love so quickly and easily also fall out so quickly and easily.
In short, ignore her Facebook posts. She’ll be forced to contact you directly, then you can talk about whatever it is she’s trying to tell you, if at all.