This is a game the two of you are playing …

Comment on Why Is My Ex Ignoring My Phone Calls? by Love Doctor Yangki Akiteng.

This is a game the two of you are playing and it’s not just her but you too. She pulls away, you use no contact to trigger whatever fears she has of being rejected/abandoned/not paid attention to etc. She comes back because it somehow helps her to feel she’s still wanted but pulls away again.

At this point (this why I completely discourage no contact, it severely limits your options) there are only two things you can do 1) be patient and let her contact you or 2) contact her. Whatever you decide to do, this game the two of you are playing is destructive to the relationship (if there is still any). One of you has to step up and be the adult, if not, it’s going to be like this until one walks away — for good!

Love Doctor Yangki Akiteng Also Commented

Why Is My Ex Ignoring My Phone Calls?
I don’t think people “forget” someone they’ve been with that easily. But it’s possible he has made up his mind and wants nothing to do with you. After all, you did tell him he is right, the breakup is best for both of you.

To be honest, I’m quite surprised that you even expected a response… you disappeared for 3 months then reappeared only to tell someone “you are right, the breakup is best for both of us”. What did you expect him to say/do???

Why Is My Ex Ignoring My Phone Calls?
You can hide your feelings or ignore her texts, it’s not going to make her want to take you back if these three questions are not adequately addressed.

1) Why did you break-up?

2) What have you done (change/personal work) to make sure things will be different/better?

3) What are you doing to show your ex you are a better partner than the person she broke up with?

Why Is My Ex Ignoring My Phone Calls?
It hurts to now be able to see more clearly in hind sight, but at least you can learn from that and try to do better next time.

I don’t know if she’s moved on or not. It’s only been 2 days, who knows she may respond in the next few days. You haven’t had any contact for 5 weeks, so it’s not like she’s been waiting for you to contact her. Remember she did say she wanted to remain in contact but you made the choice not to. She could be wondering why you are contacting her now. Wait a few more days, even a week and see what happens. If she doesn’t respond, contact her a couple more times and if she still doesn’t respond, you got your answer.

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