Question: Yangki, what do you think about “Taking your ex back is like going to a yard sale and buying back your own crap” and an ex is an ex for a reason. I am interested in your take on it.
Yangki’s Answer: My take is that there is some truth to it, but it does not apply to everyone.
The experience of someone who feels like “taking back your ex is like buying your own stuff at a garage sale” or “an ex is an ex for a reason” may be true for that person and their exes, but not true for every ex or relationship.
Say, I bought a painting for $10 and because it is cheap it lost its appeal, I would be a complete idiot to buy the same crap for $10 or even $2 at a garage sale.
BUT… If I bought a $3500 painting at a high-end art gallery and for some reason I lost it or needed to sell it for quick cash… and later found it at a garage sale, you bet I’d buy it — again. Why? Because I know it’s a valuable piece of art.
A sagacious buyer knows when they have something of real value… even if they find it at a garage sale.
In simple speak, some relationships are not worth trying to save or restart. However much you want them to be healthy, loving, fulfilling, committed etc, they will never be. But if your relationship was on average good or great, and you still love and want to be with your ex, there is nothing wrong with wanting back what you’ve lost or wanting a better relationship than you had before.
Next time someone tells you,“taking your ex back is like going to a yard sale and buying back your own crap” and “an ex is an ex for a reason”, ask them about their relationship or ex. I guarantee you in every single case, you will find that they are talking about their own experience and projecting it on every relationship and every ex. Talk about misery loves company.