Question: Why do people say, “an ex is an ex for a reason” and that taking your ex back is like going to a yard sale and buying back your own crap.
I‘ve never tried to get back with an ex before, but I find myself thinking of my recent ex a lot. So I went online to find advice whether to try to get her back. I came across a discussion board and everyone seems to think, it’s not a good idea to try to get back with an ex because exes are exes for a reason. I spent the last week on your site and I’m interested, what’s your opinion on an ex being an ex for a reason?
Yangki’s Answer: There is some validity to the saying “an ex is an ex for a reason”; if you look at it as there is a reason for every break-up. Relationships don’t just end, there is always a reason why people break-up.
But I don’t think that’s what most people mean when they say, “exes are exes for a reason”. I think what they mean is that once you break-up, you should never try to get back together with an ex. Maybe that’s true for some relationships but not true for everyone.
Is taking your ex back like going to a yard sale and buying back your own crap?
Again, may be true for someone else and their exes, but not true for every ex or relationship.
Say, I bought a painting for $10 and because it is cheap it lost its appeal; I would be a complete idiot to buy the same crap for $10 or even $2 at a garage sale.
BUT… If I bought a $3500 painting at a high-end art gallery and for some reason I lost it or needed to sell it for quick cash; and later found it at a garage sale. I would be a complete idiot not to buy. Why? Because I know it’s a valuable piece of art.
A sagacious buyer knows when they have something of real value… even if they find it at a garage sale.
In simple speak, some relationships are not worth trying to save or restart. However much you want them to be healthy, loving, fulfilling, committed etc.; they will never be. But if your relationship was on average good or great, and you still love and want to be with your ex, there is nothing wrong with wanting back what you’ve lost or wanting a better relationship than you had before.
Should you try to get back together with your ex?
Yes, if this is something you want. But don’t just rash into it. Its not easy. Make sure your ex is worth the emotional investment getting her back required. Is he like a $10 or $3500 painting?
And next time someone tells you, “taking your ex back is like going to a yard sale and buying back your own crap” and “an ex is an ex for a reason”; ask them about their relationship or ex. I guarantee you in every single case, you will find that they’re talking about their own experience and projecting it on every relationship and every ex.
This is why it’s important to do you research and read different sites if you’re looking for advice on how to attract back your ex. Settle for what resonates with you, and feels right in your spirit; and not based on “what people say.”