I don’t know if he loves you or not. What …

Comment on Why Do Exes Come Back When You Stop Pursuing Them? by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

I don’t know if he loves you or not. What I do know is that people who seem to always have a back-up woman (or man) are not thinking about either of you, they are thinking of themselves. He probably saw things were not going too well with you and had the other woman as his back-up plan and now he’s doing the same with you. I wouldn’t be surprised if things fall apart with the other woman and he comes to you, he’ll keep her as the back-up.

If knowing this you still it want to give him another chance, that’s up to you. Just keep in mind that you may not have the kind of relationship you want and desire with this person… unless, something major changes to make him want to give up his “game plan”.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.

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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!

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I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.

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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.

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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.

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