I understand feeling relaxed. But the reality is things will …

Comment on No Contact – What To Do When Your Ex Cuts Off Contact by Love Doctor, Yangki C. Akiteng.

I understand feeling relaxed. But the reality is things will be even more weird in a month’s time. The longer you are disconnected from each other, the more you become like strangers.

I have mentioned it over and over; people change (believe it or not). Your ex is having new experiences, meeting new people, doing new things etc, which you are not part of. Trying to fit back into his “new life” is harder than most people realize.

The way I see it, you are both buying time to move on, or he is at least.

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No Contact – What To Do When Your Ex Cuts Off Contact
You are late to the party, Radhruin

That point has been argued on this site 1000 times. Read the discussion on this article and others about ‘no contact’. Warning: You won’t like it very much. This site is not for “NC” users, or advocates.

I think you’ll find this interesting: Does Someone Doing “No Contact” Love You?

No Contact – What To Do When Your Ex Cuts Off Contact
Accepting that it may be really over is hard for most people, even when it’s clear it is over.

I don’t think people easily forget a 3 year relationship, they just make a conscious decision to move on from it. Without contact, it’s hard to tell whether there is hope or not. You are left in a vacuum. Personally I don’t think that’s fair, but again, a lot of things about break-ups aren’t always fair.

No Contact – What To Do When Your Ex Cuts Off Contact
I am sure you are speaking about YOU. I can’t argue with that. You may be right that in your case it’s pointless to stay in contact… may be your breakup is forever.

However, if you read stories on this blog, you’ll see that others have a whole different experience. Staying in contact made a huge difference, and for some, staying in contact is the main reason they got back their ex.

Different folks, different stories.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.

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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.

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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.

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