Break-ups are hard, painful and very emotionally trying. Trying to get back your is, as mentioned in Dating Your Ex is probably one of the most emotionally trying experiences of our lives. It tests your emotional maturity, emotionally resilience and ability to deal with unwanted emotions or uncomfortable situations in ways that many of us have never experienced before, or even knew was possible.
If you do not yet have the maturity and skills required to take you through the unwanted and uncomfortable experience (and get back your ex), you’ll give in to the temptation to not to ‘feel’ (detach) or try to ‘forget’, and will easily be swayed by people urging you to move on, find someone new, forget your ex, focus on you instead of what you want most, get your ex back.
Sometimes you just need to try things again to know for sure that it’s really over.
This is not about denial or holding on to false hope. Sometimes it is really over, and no amount of ‘positive thinking’ will change anything . This about saying to yourself: I am going to give this everything I have, do the best that I can, and if it does not work out, I’ll at least know I did everything I could have possibly done right, it just wasn’t meant to be.
It’s about taking control of the decision to go after what you want even when everyone around you is telling you to move on, find someone new, forget your ex, etc.
It’s about applying yourself whole heartedly, instead of the fear-filled one foot already out of the door half-assed attempt at getting back your ex.