Emotional connection is the feeling that the two of you feel the same emotion at the same time.
It is more than “empathy” where you “relate” to the feeling the other person is feeling. Emotional connection is ACTUALLY FEELING the feeling/emotion the other person is feeling.
For example, if they are happy, you feel happy too. Not feel “happy for them”, but genuinely feel their happiness. If they are sad, you feel their sadness and you are sad too.
The connection happens when the other person feels that you feel what they feel. You are “connected” by an “emotion” (or set of emotions).
This is different from communicating your emotions or how you feel.
When communicating emotions, the emotion goes one way, from transmitter to receiver. For example, “I am angry at you” or “You disappointed me.” The goal is to communicate how you feel. Communication is complete whether the receiver acknowledges the emotion or not, whether they respond or not.
With emotional connection, making a connection is the goal. A connection is made when the receiver acknowledges the emotion or responds in some form or another, immediate or delayed.
If the other person doesn’t feel that you feel what they are feeling, you are not emotionally connecting even if you are in regular contact.
One clear sign that you are not emotionally connecting is the feeling that the other person is distant. It’s like they are there but you can’t reach them. They are responding but something is ‘missing’. Sometimes it feels like they are just being polite. You find yourself struggling to sustain conversations beyond “how are you”, “how’s your day” or “what are you doing?”
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