How to Trigger Emotions That Make Him Want You More

This may sound like an old wives’ tale, but believe me, it works!

Traditionally there are two ways to get a man to do something: one way is telling him what you want in clear logical terms and politely asking for his participation. The other way is creating a particular feeling in him that stimulates him into action. You can choose to use either one way — or both — but you must know how to do it really well.

In this article, I will focus on creating a particular feeling in him that stimulates him into action.

They say men are logical and analytical in their thinking, they make decisions typically based on careful analysis and all that stuff. And it is really, really great that they are that way — but only if they are doing a task that requires those skills. The problem is that most men are logical and analytical PERIOD. That is why most of them are boring to women.

But this is also where most women fail themselves, especially if they’ve already “caught” the man. They think “he’s now my boyfriend/husband the rest will take care of itself, and we will live happily ever after”. Mistake! Big mistake.

The reason your man was fun, interesting, exciting and sexually intense when you were dating and courting each other is because you were flirting and seducing him and in the process creating particular feelings in him that stimulated him into action. When you stopped, he stopped feeling those feelings. He lost the inspiration. Did I mention that most men are logical and analytical PERIOD?

A relationship that has ongoing fire and passion in it needs inspiration. It’s an endless seduction. Your man is constantly being seduced and courted by many other things in his environment including work pressure and the pressure to succeed on one end, and porn and advertisement of naked women with perfect bodies on the other end. Your job is to flirt, to woo and to seduce him again and again. Just watch the movie 50 First Dates and see Adam Sandler seduce Drew Barrymore again, and again, and again.

If dating and courting is an invitation to a purchase, the way you seduce your man is your brand. By constantly evoking the emotions that fit with his aspirations, fulfill his emotional needs, and spark his fantasies, you’re demonstrating to him why he loves you and needs more of you around him — and not just for sex.

Studies have shown men who enjoy the company of their women are more loyal, committed and creative, in addition to experiencing satisfaction in the relationship. So fill him with feelings of confidence, encouragement, fun, excitement, arousal and sense of personal growth. Create experiences that inspire him to try something he didn’t think he could do before.

Problem is, you can’t do this if you’re most of the time complaining, nagging, angry, unforgiving, uncompromising, punishing, full of emotional drama, or busy playing mind games. Your efforts will just be one more thing to turn him off. If you’re using some “technique’ you pulled off an internet article or book on seduction and trying to look like or act like you are confident, fun, exciting and “sexy”, your efforts leave a bad feeling (suspicion) instead of inspiration.

To be seductive from your very core is first and foremost to seduce yourself. Your seduction style — one that is casually and naturally you and comes from within you and is effortlessly and abundantly there and stays with you day and night, whether you’re with people and or alone — is the magnetism, your attraction factor and is most magnetic when expressed as authentic love.

Seducing your man by inspiration has a high redeeming value and has a myriad of advantages. And when you contemplate those advantages, you’ll wonder why anyone would choose nagging, tricks, manipulation and sex rewards and punishments, when creating particular feelings in him that motivate him to develop his own internally generated and situation-driven behaviour, consistent with his own values and felt wants and desires is so much, well, fun!

In fact, the less time and energy you spend on manipulation and deception or on complaining about how boring your man is, the more energy and time you have for coming up with creative ways to inspire him to action — and the more passionate and magical your relationship will be.

Go on inspire your man!

PS: If you think all men are inherently stupid and immature, or resistant to change and sexually lazy, and the only thing that keeps them in place is nagging, tricks, manipulation and rewarding and punishing them with giving and withdrawing sex, and you still managed to read this article to the end, I have words of wisdom for you too. You can get work from the beast if you beat it; what you’ll never get is loyalty. Pushed too far, the beast breaks and runs or breaks and bites back. That’s just the way it is.

It’s not too late to start cultivating a sexual magnetism you’ve only up to now dreamed about! Check out my eBook, The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness e-Book — learn how to seduce without looking like you’re trying.

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Yangki, thank you for your response. Just to give more context, and I am not making excuses for him it was hurtful what he said, but it was one abusive outburst in 7 years, it’s never happened before he has always treated me with the greatest respect, it was on that basis that I wondered why and if we could resolve it.

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We split up 6 months ago very abruptly after 7 years and i have found it hard, but he has has an abusive upbringing and been in abusive relationships, I feel that he is more comfortable in them because it is what he knows. Ours was lovely but suddenly he changed and was abusive to me, just verbally but i was very hurt and although I said I could forgive him he refuses point blank to even discuss any way forward. On that basis where do I even begin to trigger positive emotions.

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I have been dating my ex for about three months now. We had been broken up for 2 months but kept in contact via text. One day he asked if he could call me, we talked and eventually met. On the most part things are good except that I’ve noticed lately that he seems a little stressed. He says it’s mainly just his work but he also does not text or call as often as he did. I’m worried that there could more and he’s pulling away. You said in your book to expect the pull-push, could this be it?

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