Comment on How To Get Positive Responses From Your Ex by SpaceGirl.
This is a great article! I have been turning away from my ex’s bids for emotional connection because I was tired of being avoided and ignored by him for so long. I reacted exactly as you described; I ended up resisting his bid to connect last week as a result of the resentment I had from being ignored. It was a small bid but it was a bid nonetheless. Now I regret my refusal to respond.
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