No. 2 Reason Women Break-up With A Guy

What’s the number one reason many women break up with a guy they think is really wonderful, they get along with really well, and even love? He won’t commit.

The number two reason? He’s boring.

Surprisingly, many guys either don’t know they are boring or don’t believe in their ability to bore a woman out of a relationship. I’ve heard many say to me, “she says I’m a great guy.” or “she says it’s the best relationship she’s ever heard.”

How nice! But why is she breaking up with you? Better yet, why is she breaking up with you when you never have arguments or fight? Why did she break up with you after saying she had a great time with you? Why does she keep running away into the arms of guys she says are no where as good as you?

May be she doesn’t know what she wants or may be she’s afraid of commitment. Yeah, right! Whatever makes you sleep at night.

Truth is, some women will tell you to your face that “you’re boring” but most will politely break up with you. Some will break up with you again and again mostly because they know you’re a great guy but feel you’re not much fun to be around. And because she cares about you, may be even loves you, she’ll try not to further damage your self-esteem by using the following:

1. “Let’s just be friends”.
2. “I like you but don’t want to be in a relationship right now.”
3. “I need to be on my own for sometime.”
4. “I think we should see other people.”
5. “I feel that I need to explore life a little more.”
6. “We’re just not in the same place.”
7. “I love you but I’m not in love with you.”
8. “You haven’t done anything, I just need a break.”
9. “It’s not you, it’s me”
10. “Any woman would be lucky to have you.”

Okay, those are common break-up words almost everyone uses. It doesn’t mean anything. You may be right, but if you have any doubts about your ability to be so boring, test yourself against these 15 Reasons Why She Thinks You’re Boring.

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  • This article confirms how I’m feeling about my current boyfriend. We’ve been dating for just over a year but things are so boring that I’m thinking of leaving him. He doesn’t talk much and when I ask him if he wants to do anything he just says it’s up to me. We never go out much because he says he doesn’t like being around people. All we do is dinner and sex. Sex used to be average but now it’s just boring. The only thing that’s making me stay is he’s the only guy that’s shown me love. Do you think I’m settling?

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  • We discussed it a couple of times. He says he is happy with who he is but admits that his ex also complained about lack of conversation. Is this his way of telling me to leave?

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    • It’s possible that he is telling you to leave if you want, or he could be simply saying that you need to accept him as he is.

      You have three options:

      1) accept him the way he is especially if the positives outweigh the negatives. For conversation and fun stuff, look to your friends and family etc;

      2) try to introduce some shared interest, things you both enjoy doing. You cannot change him but you can change things in the relationship; or

      3) if you can’t envision yourself with him and still be happy, walk away as his ex did. It’ll get much harder to walk away later when you have much more invested in the relationship.

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  • But do you think it is a good reason to leave someone? My fear is that I may leave him and regret later or I’ll stay and be miserable for the rest of my life.

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    • I can’t answer that for you. This is your heart, your life — the decision (and responsibility) is yours. When you let others decide what you do with your life and heart, you’re giving the most important power you’ll ever have away. I’d hate to be the one to take that power away from you. All I can do is offer and clarify the options you have… YOU decide.

      Trust yourself and even if you later find that you made a mistake, take it as a learning moment. They say the only mistakes we make are those we don’t learn from.

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