It depends on why and how one is “nice” in …

Comment on The Niceness Gene – It’s In Your DNA Study Says by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

It depends on why and how one is “nice” in the place.

People pleasers are “nice” and do “nice” things to and for others because they want something – attention, affection, love, respect, control etc. It’s a sort of passive aggressive way of getting all those things.

Straight-up nice people are nice because that’s just who they are. They do good things to and for others without expectation of ‘reward’.

I think that to be straight-up nice, one has to have strong sense of Self, strong personal boundaries and discernment, otherwise one ends up being used, abused, and misused.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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