Saying ” I’m sure everything will be OK” to an …

Comment on Signs You’re Making Progress With Your Ex by Love Doctor Yangki Akiteng.

Saying ” I’m sure everything will be OK” to an emotional bid for connection isn’t following my advice or book. Even to someone who isn’t feeling depressed, that is a point of emotional disconnection. I want to think that I’ve done a better job at explaining “emotional connection” than “I’m sure everything will be OK”.

You also must have read in the book that sometimes it can feel like a dance of one step forward and two steps back. You don’t just change strategy because you were taken back a step or two.

I suggest you re-read the sections on: ‘Do You Need A New Strategy?’ and ‘Strategic Thinking, Tactical Action’ before you do anything to undo any progress you might have made. Also get the ‘bids” and ’emotional connection’ part right, I don’t think you are doing it the right way.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

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Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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