If you think “giving her space to figure things out” …

Comment on Should I Still Contact My Ex If I’m Not Sure? by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

If you think “giving her space to figure things out” will fix your communication problem, then you are wasting your time.

You can’t learn to communicate better with each other by not communicating.

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Should I Still Contact My Ex If I’m Not Sure?
Everyone is different in terms of how fast they bounce back. Have you taken the “How Are You Doing Post-Break-Up?” Quiz. It’s worth taking, if anything just so you have an idea how well (or not) you are doing. It’s one of the quizzes in the menu above.

Should I Still Contact My Ex If I’m Not Sure?
You do what you think is best for you. I personally don’t think cutting off all contact is going to make much of a difference.

Seems to me you have been misleading yourself hanging on to the fact that he says he still wants you in his life and enjoys sex with you, and ignoring the fact that after 8 months, he still does not want to talk about a relationship with you.

In my opinion, cutting off all contact is just your attempt to not deal with an unpleasant reality. You said yourself that “he has being leading me on”, to me that says that deep inside you know that the two of you are not getting back together. At some point you have to face reality and stop playing mind games with yourself!

Should I Still Contact My Ex If I’m Not Sure?
There is an article on that: Who Should Initiate Contact- Dumper or Dumpee?.
I also suggest you do a search on “contact” and also “needs space”, plenty of advice that you’ll find helpful. Notably, when it comes to successfully getting back your ex, who initiates contact and how much contact means little to nothing.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.

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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.

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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.

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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.

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