Have you ever had a friend describe a really “hot” blind date to you, and you get all excited and eager to meet this wonder person only to come face to face with the person and zero, nothing, no sparks. The person is all that, but you are just not digging him/her.
Or found yourself so powerfully attracted to someone with whom you have nothing in common, and physically he/she is not even your “type”, but he/she makes your libido sit up and howl?
Or may be been in a passionless and sexually dead relationship for months or even years, and suddenly you find yourself so attracted to your partner that you can’t keep your hands off him/her?
Two words – sexual chemistry.
Sometimes you instantly feel strong sexual chemistry with someone when you first see him/her, and other times sexual chemistry can sneak up on you very slowly. You may like the person, enjoy their company, and you have a lot in common, but that spark is missing – that special feeling isn’t there (he/she is just a friend). Then one day you come to the realization that you are very sexually attracted to him/her.
Other times, you feel the chemistry with someone and then when you get to know the person, the sexual chemistry and attraction wears off.
You can’t fake sexual chemistry.
Even with all the books on reading body language, gestures and facial cues, and even with all that “we know” about men-women dynamics, many of us still can’t figure out if there is sexual chemistry– or not.
We misread and misinterpret sexual signals because there are other energies emitting on the same frequency that tend to interfere with our ability to correctly read someone else’s sexual attraction body language. It’s like when you are trying to tune your radio to 98.1 FM, but your antenna keeps picking up another channel on a higher frequency range.
There are sexual attraction signals that your conscious mind could never tell you, because these signals are operating at a higher frequency range (the sub-conscious range).
Always follow your instincts.
The ability to utilize your intuition is a crucial factor in sexual attraction, since sexual attraction happens at the sub-conscious level. Because your body senses threat or danger before your mind does, your intuitive mind or gut feeling can pick up those aspects of sexual attraction which vibrate at a higher frequency range — and steer you to the right move at the right time.
Intuition not only helps you steer away from potential danger, it also helps you feel confident that the tools you need to conquer the unknown and unknowable are always at hand.
In short, you must trust your own instincts if you are to be successful with the opposite sex. Discounting your own powerful inner feelings and relying on some “expert’s techniques” destroys your own ability to think for yourself, and make correct judgments of people and situations.
Except that there is an alarming exception. If your sexual antenna is weak or faulty or damaged, you will not be able to pick up these signals operating at a higher frequency range, and as a result you will not be able to tune into the other person’s sexual wavelength.
How can you tell that your sexual signals are not strong enough?
Every time you meet someone new, conversation is good, you have much in common, you are so sexually attracted to him/her and things seem to be going generally well, but the other person doesn’t find you attractive in a sexual way. In other words, they just want to be “friends”.
If this happens to you over and over, you have a problem tuning into a man or woman’s sexual wavelength. That’s why you are picking up the wrong signals.
It could also be that your sexual antenna is faulty. That is, you are sending strong sexual signals alright, but sending the wrong ones at the wrong time. That’s why when you try any move that’d be considered “sexual” (flirting, seduction or even sexual banter), the opposite sex look at you like “Ugh! Weirdo!” if you are a guy. If you are a woman, guys think you are “easy and cheap” because your sexual energy is like all over the place.
To accurately pick up these signals operating at a higher frequency range and get sexual chemistry right, you must first make sure you sexual antenna is finely tuned, is sending out the right vibrations — and IS TURNED ON.
This takes some practice, until you’re able to naturally tune into someone else’s sexual frequencies and set off powerful sexual chemistry. It just becomes part of you, something you do without even trying.