It’s a different set of emotions when your ex tells you they are seeing someone new, or when you find out from Facebook, a mutual friend, accidental run-in etc that your ex is seeing someone new, or has gone back to an old ex…
Most normal people would react to the news in some form or the other.
Some people although disturbed and hurt accept it as another obstacle they have to overcome to get back their ex.
Others are hurt, distraught, feel anxious and worried that they may never get their ex back.
The third group of people are hurt, upset and angry, and want nothing to do with their ex.
These are ‘normal’ reactions. Everyone handles it their way.
But when you are not in control of your emotions, your reaction will be impulsive and sometimes over-the-top. Some people even react without knowing the facts about what is really going on.
Not only do they make complete fools of themselves and earn the title of “the crazy ex”, they keep making things worse and worse because they can’t bring themselves to stop digging the hole they are in.
Like I said, some kind of ‘reaction’ is normal and even expected. “Crazy” is not normal.
You know that too, but in the heat of the emotion you don’t care about what’s “normal” and what’s not.
Well, if you have some self-respect you should care… or at least learn how to not over react in ways that leave a negative last impression.
“…but I don’t care. He/she moved on as if what we had meant nothing. I don’t want to ever talk or see him/her again…”
Okay… but what about your self-respect? Dignity? You don’t what to ever see that again either?
It’s easy to say “I don’t care” when your emotions are talking. But months later (forget months, days later) when you calm down, you are going to feel “stupid” (if you have some sense of shame) for the way you acted.
But maybe not… maybe you have an overly bloated ego. If so, never mind me.
But if you are trying to get back your ex… how you react to situations that arouse intense emotion can mean the difference between hope and no hope.
This is one reason I wrote “It’s Just A Break-Up“…. for people who ruin their chances because they can’t control their emotions.
Your emotions should NOT run the show. Your emotions should NOT get in the way of what you want. Your emotions are supposed to be your ally, not your foe.
But since you are human… there will be… you know… a few of those “moments”… and that’s ‘normal”.
What’s not ‘normal” is full on crazy that does not protect your best interest (respect and dignity) – and the best interest of the relationship.