Older Women Younger Men: Should They Date?

cougar-town-older-women-younger-menThe sitcom Cougar Town starring Courtney Cox is meant to empower women or at least that’s what the show is said to do. It stars Courtney Cox’s character (Jules Cobb) a recently divorced forty-something single mother who upon discovering that all the men her age are either married, emotionally unavailable, gay or dating younger women reluctantly agrees to test the dating scene at a nightclub filed with much younger guys. She quickly finds herself a bit out of her element. Her old-fashioned dating skills and rules no longer apply.

Desperately trying to cling onto youth, Jules re-asserts herself through unrelenting sexuality. She sexually hunts and pursues younger men and finds herself in excruciating awkward situations. It’s only after Jules stops trying so hard to please the younger guys that she starts to make progress in the older women younger men dating world.

Jules’ best friend and neighbor Elle, tries to prevent her from going out while her 17-year old son is constantly being embarrassed by both of his parents (his father is also dating younger women). In one scene, Jules lectures middle school kids about how hard it is to date when you’re a forty-something woman.

After some wild nights out, Jules discovers that she can’t and doesn’t really want to party every night like a 20-year-old anymore.

I’m not sure what to make of the show so far and so I thought I’d ask you fine folks what you think about older women dating younger men.  What are some of the pro and cons of dating someone of a significantly different age? What are some of your best and worst experiences dating someone significantly older or younger? Should there be an age limit on who you date?

Any thoughts or questions on the subject?

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  1. says: KSotoph

    I am 39, she’s 54. We have been together for 8 years and the age difference was never a problem. But now it is. She wants to stay home more, goes to sleep very early, her energy is low although her sex drive is okay but not as good as it used to be. I love her very much but not sure if I’m ready to live like an old couple.

  2. says: Pat

    I agree with Goddess I can’t believe the jugemental attitudes of the responses. What does age have anything to with how 2 people feel about each other. Why can’t two people of two different ages have the same kind of relationship that 2 of the same age? The younger men also have a different mind set than the older men. They have been brought up being independent and are willing to let the woman be independent. Wouldnt even think of a man older for a relationship.

  3. says: Terri

    It really does depend on the age gap. I am 43 and physically fit and I look great. I get action from guys as young as 20 and I love it because it shows me that I still have it. I wouldn’t date one that young. 30 is the youngest I am willing to date.

  4. says: Goddess

    What is laughable is that this post is getting such judgmental comments. I’m an energetic fun loving 51 woman married to a man 19 years my junior. We love each and have an exciting life. And unlike some of the fat, lazy, stuck in their ways beer drinking couch potatoes men in my age group, he’s in great physical shape, does his share of housework and treats me like an equal. The amazing sex life is a bonus. Each to their own. 🙂

    For all you who judge us, better hope that your fate never falls into the hands of someone as indiscriminatingly judgmental as you.

  5. says: Skeptic101

    … but I do not now how to approach them.

    Pretend you do not see they’re old, compliment how good they look and never stare not even glance at younger women. Only when you have her hooked to young-man sex can you go back to being yourself lol

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