Older Women Younger Men: Should They Date?

cougar-town-older-women-younger-menThe sitcom Cougar Town starring Courtney Cox is meant to empower women or at least that’s what the show is said to do. It stars Courtney Cox’s character (Jules Cobb) a recently divorced forty-something single mother who upon discovering that all the men her age are either married, emotionally unavailable, gay or dating younger women reluctantly agrees to test the dating scene at a nightclub filed with much younger guys. She quickly finds herself a bit out of her element. Her old-fashioned dating skills and rules no longer apply.

Desperately trying to cling onto youth, Jules re-asserts herself through unrelenting sexuality. She sexually hunts and pursues younger men and finds herself in excruciating awkward situations. It’s only after Jules stops trying so hard to please the younger guys that she starts to make progress in the older women younger men dating world.

Jules’ best friend and neighbor Elle, tries to prevent her from going out while her 17-year old son is constantly being embarrassed by both of his parents (his father is also dating younger women). In one scene, Jules lectures middle school kids about how hard it is to date when you’re a forty-something woman.

After some wild nights out, Jules discovers that she can’t and doesn’t really want to party every night like a 20-year-old anymore.

I’m not sure what to make of the show so far and so I thought I’d ask you fine folks what you think about older women dating younger men.  What are some of the pro and cons of dating someone of a significantly different age? What are some of your best and worst experiences dating someone significantly older or younger? Should there be an age limit on who you date?

Any thoughts or questions on the subject?

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41 replies on “Older Women Younger Men: Should They Date?”
  1. says: Waiting-to-exhale

    The older a woman gets the less she wants a man she can depend on. She want a partner, someone who simply loves her, enjoys her company, and supports her dreams and hopes. Not someone who feels insecure if she doesn’t “need” him and wants to control her.

  2. says: Jen

    I’m 55, dating a 37 year old. I haven’t really been attracted to a man close to my age since my divorce a couple of years ago. When dating younger men, though, you have to weed out the ones that are just after sex with an older woman or want kids. Also, my boyfriend has 3 daughters. I love them, but it does put limits on our time together since he has custody of them. He’s a full-time dad AND MOM. Because of that, I realize I’m not high on his priority list and that hurts.

  3. says: Christina

    I’m 40 dating a 31 one year old man and I’ve never been happier in my life the attraction and emotions between us are stronger than ever before !!:)

  4. says: bibi

    I’m 38 and dating a 21, together for 1 month. We enjoyed each other company. Please tell me if this is wrong?

  5. says: SOL

    I have been dating a man 11 and 1/2 years my junior for a little over 2 years. We have had our ups and downs. He was a friend and instrumental in helping me heal from a painful separation from my husband 15 years my senior. We met when he was 25, and I was 38, The love, strength, respect and admiration that I got from the 25 year old, was more than my husband had given me in the 8 years of our relationship, the young man gave it to me in one month. The young man pursued me, his kiss alone said more to me than the 2 carot rock my husband gave me. The question here is how can someone so young, give so much with so little, and some one so mature give so little with so much? I was never open to the younger man older woman relationship until I met Dan, but now I truly understand, that love is something that is not meant to be confined by tradition or trends, love simply is, and for the Mothers out there opposed to their sons loving an older woman, I say: I would rather see my son happy with an older woman who loves him and can meet his wants, needs and desires, than miserable with a young one who drags him down with her needs, refuses to understand his needs, and demands that he exists soley to make her happy. I too have a son, and I love him enough to know that I cannot impose on him my ideals on love, he understands what makes him happy. Who am I to judge?

  6. says: Ladonna

    My soon to be ex husband had cheated on me with a 18 year old while i was pregnant so i don’t really care for the men my age or younger. Imeant this guy he’s 21 years older and treats me with respect and wants to spend quality time together, but i don’t want to rush things what would you suggest i do?

    1. If you don’t want to rush things, then just don’t rush things. I can’t suggest any more than that because I don’t know anything about your relationship and why you feel that there is a possibility that you are or will rush things. Most people do not have that concern of “rushing things” so yours has to be coming from somewhere.

  7. says: Florence

    My boyfriend left me for an older woman. Some of my friends say he’s not in love with her but just wants the experiencewith older woman. Should I wait for him to get bored with her and come back to me or just move on with my life?

  8. says: KSotoph

    I am 39, she’s 54. We have been together for 8 years and the age difference was never a problem. But now it is. She wants to stay home more, goes to sleep very early, her energy is low although her sex drive is okay but not as good as it used to be. I love her very much but not sure if I’m ready to live like an old couple.

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