If you are lucky, you get a few responses here and there, but after a while, you start getting the feeling you are bothering your ex. You wonder if they are just being polite or if may be… they are stringing you along.
So yes, while “Minimal contact”, “limited contact” or “low contact” buys you time to play footsie and/or pretend that you are trying to get back your ex, that’s just the beginning of your frustration, to put it politely.
If your ex responds, you find that conversations are shallow, superficial and surface level. Every time you reconnect it is how are you, how is work, how is family…. disconnect, then repeat. You never get to deep conversations because there is no continuity, no momentum.
What gives? What is missing?