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Comment on Limited Contact Vs. Pressure-Free Contact by LOVE DOCTOR, YANGKI AKITENG.

I don’t think he’s going to get in touch, at least not any time soon. I also don’t think the reason he’s not reached out is because he’s busy. I think you saying you wanted to talk about the relationship to be clear where things stand scared him off. He just wanted to have a drink with you, but you upped the stakes.

You have to first get someone comfortable with the idea of the two of you being back together before you can start taking about “where things stand”.

Send him a text, not asking about going out, but asking about his work. The way you do that is by showing someone that even when you have nothing to gain from it, you still care if he is okay. See what happens…


Limited Contact Vs. Pressure-Free Contact
Re-establishing Contact (page 82)
Dos and Don’ts of Initial Contact (page 88)
Needy Contact (page 144)
Pressure-Free Contact (page 151)

Limited Contact Vs. Pressure-Free Contact
Thanks for your kind words.

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Limited Contact Vs. Pressure-Free Contact
I’m sorry you got bad advice. This is exactly why I discourage mind games. They almost always backfire!

I don’t think there is a remote control way to get him to come over to you and talk to you again. Swallow your pride, go over to him, ask how he is doing and chat a little bit. You may have to do this a few times before he gets comfortable with approaching you again.


10 TOP INDICATORS Your Ex Will Come Back
It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.

What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.

What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.

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