Ending a relationship hurts no matter who ends it. Give …

Comment on Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

Ending a relationship hurts no matter who ends it. Give him his time to get over his hurt and come around on his own. You can’t force a friendship and trying so hard to be his friend will only make him angry. All you can at this point is let him know that in spite and despite of what happened, you as a person can be counted on as a friend.

As he nurses his hurt, keep busy and try to find happiness all on your own. The last thing you want is for him to think is that you are waiting at his beck and call.

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Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
Kathy and sexpotus, that is your experience and you probably have good reasons for thinking the way you do. Some exs can’t be friends and others shouldn’t be, especailly if the chemistry is toxic. Every relationship however, is different. A lot depends on the type of relationship and the two people involved.


Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
I think it’s a sign of emotional maturity to be able to maintain a friendship with an ex, unless of course as you say, your ex is abusive or completely psycho. I personally wouldn’t get involved with someone who “hates” all his exes or calls them names. I know they’ll do it to me too.

However, using “lets be friends” to get your ex back can easily backfire. Your ex may actually believe that all you want is to just be friends, and later when you tell him/her that you still have romantic feelings for him/her and want him/her back, he/she may feel lied to and even manipulated.

It’s best not to offer “let’s be friends” if you want your ex back. But if they do offer, take the opportunity not the label. It means that you can text, call, hang out and showcase the changes you’ve made within a safe emotional environment.

It’s worked out well for many of my clients, as long as they do not allow themselves to get trapped in the friend-zone.


Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
What does real life experience tell you about “women don’t lie and men don’t listen”? If you have met women who’ve lied/lie and know men who listen, then there you have your answer.

If you noticed, I didn’t answer your questions. Reason being you were not asking for my advice (which is what this site is for), but asking me about someone else’s advice, something you should be asking them to explain because they are the ones who made those statements.


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