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Comment on Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex? by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

Just tell him exactly what you wrote here. Let him know you are cutting off all contact because it’s what’s best for BOTH of you. You can’t be friends right now because you don’t want him to keep hoping that there will be a romantic relationship between the two of you. But that a friendship is possible down the road.

After you tell him that, don’t try to contact him again because you “feel bad”. Contacting someone after you’ve told them no contact is what’s best, is sending mixed signals.

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Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
A good friendship is a strong foundation for a lasting relationship. When the passion is down, you’ll always have the friendship to weather you through until the passion is back up. Also there is that “companionship” elements added to the relationship because you can just be content in each other’s company without feeling that you have to “do” something to entertain or make the other feel “happy”. Less stress…

I hope it works out for the two of you.


Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
Either your ex is playing a mind game or just doesn’t know how to tell you he still has feelings for you. Next time he contacts you, just be bold and tell him you don’t understand his actions and would really like an explanation. Tell him you hope he will understand if you stop responding because things can’t just go on like this… then see what he says.

If it’s a mind game he is playing, he’ll probably continue doing it because he thinks it’s making him more attractive (yeah… !?). If this is his way of trying to tell you how he really feels, he may stumble a bit in explaining himself, but will change his approach because he knows it’ll hurt his chances.


Is It A Mistake To Be Friends With My Ex?
If being friends for a while will increase your chances of getting back together then don’t blow it. However, if there seems to be nothing that actually shows that he’s even trying to be a friend, then you need to raise this with him. Not about “getting back together” but about the two of you spending more time together. His response will tell you if you really have a chance of getting back together or he’s just stringing you along – for whatever reaosns.


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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


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I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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