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Comment on Is It A Break-Up If She Wants to Take A Break? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

You told him not to contact you…

There is only one way to find out if he’s respecting your wish, or has moved on.

Reach out.

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Is It A Break-Up If She Wants to Take A Break?
Yes. One should at least communicate his or her intent from the beginning or when one senses that he or she is not into the other person as much as the other person is into him or her.

But there are also men and women who even when told insist that it meant more because the other person said “I love you”, or treated him or her a certain way, or did certain things that prove that the relationship meant something serious. It’s hard, understandably so, for them to believe it was good for a while, but it’s now over.

Is It A Break-Up If She Wants to Take A Break?
I don’t think you are pathetic and weak — I actually think you are being authentic and true to yourself and your emotions. That’s strength! Not many people in this world are emotionally honest enough to show up and say… this is who I am and this is what I truly feel.

Take as much time as you need, everyone grieves their loss in their own way and time. Grief over loss only becomes problematic if over time there is no slightest change in how you feel, the emotions get more overwhelming and unmanageable, or actions and reactions become problematic/destructive. When that happens, one needs help dealing with the emotions and moving past the event causing them. Other than that, take one day at a time… one foot in front of the other.

Is It A Break-Up If She Wants to Take A Break?
You’re right to be concerned, but if you discussed the break and part of it involved not talking for a period of time, you trying to get him to talk isn’t going to help. It might even take him go from feeling confused to being sure he doesn’t want the relationship.

Let him date and see what else is out there. In the meantime, you might also want to try dating to see what else is out there. Both of you might find that there is someone else out there for you, or find that you don’t want anyone else. The decision is yours just as much as it is his.

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.

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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!

Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.

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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.

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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.

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