I’m sure you realize it was a HUGE mistake to …

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I’m sure you realize it was a HUGE mistake to pretend that you didn’t love her anymore and even go as far telling her you had moved on. You set that trap and you got caught in it.

Writing a letter confessing everything will not help anything. Telling her how you feel now may make you feel good about yourself but it isn’t going to make her “happy” hearing it. Like I said in my post, most people can only handle so much emotion at a time. Telling her now all at once is the ego again trying to get something for itself (relief) without much consideration for the other’s happiness.

My suggestion would be to reconnect with her slowly over time. Tell her how you truly feel when she’s more receptive to hearing that she’s loved — and do it in small dozes that she can handle.

Love Doctor Yangki Akiteng Also Commented

If You Love Someone Should You Tell Them?
Hi Nicole, I just called… to say… “I love you”… and I mean it from the bottom of my heart… Remember, Stevie Wonder???…(:

Thank you for your kind words… I’m doing the best I can… comments like yours help to know all is not going to waste.

If You Love Someone Should You Tell Them?
Hunting at the TOP of the food chain is like the lion hunting the strong, fast and fresh. Hunting at the BOTTOM of the food chain is like a hyena stalking the weak, sick and fallen.

What I’m saying is that, the technique you describe will NOT work with a strong, confident and self-assured woman. She’ll dismiss you at best and feel pity for you at worst. The only kind of woman you attract with a technique like that is someone 1) with very low self-esteem (yes, there are very attractive woman with very low-self-esteem), 2) mentally unstable or 3) desperate.

What does it say about you when your “success list” is compromised of women with very low self-esteem, are mentally unstable or desperate? It doesn’t say Don Juan, it says something else… like… like… it begins with an “L”.

If You Love Someone Should You Tell Them?
Two questions for you, Don Juan…
1) What kind of woman do you attract with a technique like that?
2) What does it say about you hunting at the bottom of the food chain?

Recent Comments by Love Doctor Yangki Akiteng

Love Is Not Supposed to Hurt – But Why Are You Hurting?
Leave him for good and move on with your life or try to make things work out with him is a decision only you can make. I don’t believe in making decisions for others that they should be making for themselves. As a coach, I can only help you with whatever decision you make or whatever side you’re already leaning towards. Making decisions for you isn’t empowering you to OWN your life — and relationship (be responsible!).

When Do You Stop Trying To Get Back Your Ex?
If it makes you feel good to have “closure” contact him and tell him you’ll not be bothering him again. But that’s all what contacting him will do, give you “closure” (hopefully!).

Waiting for him to contact you is unrealistic. They say the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour… he didn’t contact you for 2 months and when you contacted him he didn’t seem interested and hasn’t responded to any of your 3 contacts, what makes you think he’ll contact you?

My suggestion is that you let this go… meaning you stop actively trying to get him back and focus your attention elsewhere. You can try again later if you are still up to it, but for now more contact is useless.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
It might explain why some women seem to all be sharing or recycling the same men.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
There’s that school of thought and I respect your position. However, I’m not saying women HAVE to approach men. Some women like you obviously have a problem with it, and that’s OK.

I think that if a woman wants to take the initiative and own the power to choose who she dates instead of complaining about men not approaching her, or about meeting only losers (who approach her), why try to take that from her with statements like “unless she’s desperate?”

We all should do what we have to do and let others do what they want to do. Makes life easier for everybody… (:

So Why Is My Ex Texting Me Now?
My advice… Grow up and stop playing mind games.

Engaging and pulling away — as in no contact then contact, then pulling away, then contact, then not returning calls etc — is destructive for any relationship.

One of you has to step up and be the adult, if not, it’s going to be like this until the feeling of love and liking is completely gone — for good!

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