How to Motivate An Avoidant to Change (VIDEO)

Can avoidants change? Do they even want to change? And what if your avoidant ex is unaware of their attachment style? What if they don’t think anything is wrong with them and they don’t need to change?

What you can do to help an avoidant change is be the secure base or stabilizer in the relationship. We know from numerous studies that a securely attached partner can over time transform someone with an anxious attachment or avoidant attachment to a securely attached partner. An affirming and nurturing relationship with a securely attached romantic partner, therapist, coach or mentor can also move one from an insecure attachment style to a secure one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QaX6xBVH0sg&t=122s