If you clicked on this article hoping to find magic words to say to make someone instantly fall in love with you, or some kind of love spell to cast on that not-so-interested man or woman, I am sorry to disappoint you.
I am old school on this one: You can’t hurry love. No, you just have to wait. Love don’t come easy. It’s a game of give and take. You got to trust, give it time.
But just how long does it take for someone to fall in love? And at what point do you say, “OMG! I can’t believe it’s happening to me!”
I personally don’t believe any “Love Expert” can tell you with 100% certainty just how long it’ll take for someone to fall in love. If anyone tells you they know exactly how to make someone love you forever in 30 or even 90 minutes, get a clue. It’s Kool-Aid!
There is no magic number of minutes, weeks, months or years for when people fall in love. If we’re talking about attraction based on sexual chemistry, then Scientists claim it takes a man just 8.2 seconds to “fall head over heels”; and a woman 15 seconds to decide if she wants to fall in love or not.
Explains why I fell in love twice today — at the supermarket! [Don’t get any ideas, I am kidding. This woman is taken!]
The point I am trying to make here is that we fall in love with someone that we have known for a while. The process of “falling in love” happens in stages for most of us (with the exception of the emotionally immature or unhealthy who fall in love with just about anyone — and too quickly).
The first stage of falling in love is the one I just talked about above; one based on sexual chemistry. Keep in mind, “sexual” is not necessarily about “sex” but rather about the energy that drives sexual attraction. The second stage is when we realize just how unique and special the person is; and the third is when we have convinced ourselves that we’re happier and more fulfilled with that person in our lives.
A majority of men stay far too long (and some even get stuck) in the first stage of falling in love, while women tend to merge stage two and three into one, making it look like women fall in love in only two stages. My guess is that the biological clock has something to do with it.
Bottom line, there is no one-size-fits-all length of time for someone to fall in love. Some people “know” that the person is right for them as soon as they set eyes on that person (love at first sight). Some of these men and women who fell in “love at first sight” report feeling an unexplainable sense of having known the person before (soul mates). That think/feel knowledge is then confirmed with more information gathered after getting to know the person for some time.
It would be really nice if all of us were that fortunate to have someone fall in love with us at first sight, but that doesn’t happen to the vast majority of people in this world. For the rest of us, you can’t hurry love. Love takes time. All you can do is nurture the feeling of attraction and help the other person move through the stages of falling in love. How soon they can do that depends on the individual — and his or her issues!