It takes time for an ex to let you in …

Comment on How to Get Your Ex to Initiate Contact by Love Doctor, Yangki C. Akiteng.

It takes time for an ex to let you in on their personal life especially if you have been cut off from each other’s life for a prolonged period of time.

As long as he’d responding and engaged, keep building emotional momentum and responding to his emotional bids for connection. He’ll open up as emotional safety is created. All that is in the book.

Love Doctor, Yangki C. Akiteng Also Commented

How to Get Your Ex to Initiate Contact
With the information you’ve given, I don’t think that he’ll “pursue” you if you pull back, now.

I think that you should do more to address why he didn’t feel he was in love with you. If you don’t, you’ll get to a certain point (like before) and he’ll again break it off because he’s not feeling “it”.

Why he’s not feeling “it” may have to do with you trying to “manage” the relationship a little too much (like you are doing now), instead of letting things happen more naturally. Just a wild guess…


How to Get Your Ex to Initiate Contact
It’ll set you back. Two conversations doesn’t seem like balance has been restored, I am sure you have initiated a lot more. See if you can get to a ratio of one for one or even one for two, before you change anything.


How to Get Your Ex to Initiate Contact
Yes, it is emotional momentum… 🙂


Recent Comments by Love Doctor, Yangki C. Akiteng

10 TOP INDICATORS Your Ex Will Come Back
It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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