This is why I discourage “no-contact”. It’s a bullet …

Comment on Should I Wait For My Ex and For How Long? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

This is why I discourage “no-contact”. It’s a bullet in your own foot. That said it’s normal for an ex not to respond the first time you initiate contact. I suggest that you give it a week/two and then send an email that is casual and friendly but does not mention “the relationship”. Something that asks about him, some of the things you know are important to him, etc. and briefly mentions you are doing well. Then end with you’ll be in touch.

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There is only one way to find out. Contact your ex if you haven’t yet done so. If he is still single and still has feelings for you, it’s not too late. Give him a chance to get to know the new you!

Should I Wait For My Ex and For How Long?
From what you wrote, it seems that something really terrible happened for him to say he is happy without you in his life. Without knowing what it is, I can’t say for sure you can get him back. There has to be some kind of positive emotional connection (however small) left for you to build on. In this case it seems there is none.

Should I Wait For My Ex and For How Long?
I think that doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result is insane. In other words, whether you leave her alone for 1 month, or 1 year, is not going to change anything!

Why? Because people don’t fall in love with you because you “leave them alone”. People fall in love because of how you make them FEEL.

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