I didn’t mean to worry you, just being realistic. I think …

Comment on How Long After A Break-Up Will It Take To Get My Ex Back? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I didn’t mean to worry you, just being realistic.

I think you are doing fine. In addition to what you are already doing, see if you can go beyond fun and open communication to making that emotional connection that builds “emotional safety” and makes him feel that elusive “feeling” of being in love again. Also make sure you communicate the changes you’ve made. At the end of the day, it’s emotional connection, emotional safety, feeling of being in love again and seeing that you made enough changes to make the relationship work better that will get him back. If you can do these effectively, it will not take very long… 🙂

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How Long After A Break-Up Will It Take To Get My Ex Back?
He obviously still cares about you, but a year of trying to get him back and he’s still talking about moving on is not a good sign. Three things may be going on

1. Things were really over a long time ago, and the two of you have just been dragging it.

2. You’ve been playing too safe (or playing mind games) because you are afraid that letting him know how you truly feel will drive him away, and now you’ve been friendzoned.

3. He’s not seeing the “change” that’ll convince him that the relationship is worth another try.


How Long After A Break-Up Will It Take To Get My Ex Back?
I don’t think that it’ll make him feel any less pressure. It might make him feel even more pressure.

Imagine trying to make a decision and someone is telling you, “No pressure. Take your time”, and you know too well that they are waiting for you to make THE decision. You will pressured.


How Long After A Break-Up Will It Take To Get My Ex Back?
The push-pull dynamic usually happens when it feels like you are back together and yet really not back together. This seems to be what is happening.

Most people react with pulling away when they feel pressured to do something that they were going to do. The pressure often causes them to rethink or change their minds. Continue what you’ve been doing, but take off the pressure from pushing for getting back together until he is ready.


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