How do you know if you’re sexually compatibility?
One obvious way to find out if you are sexually compatible is to sleep with the person, that you way you know if it’s a fit or not, if you like it or don’t. The other is to wait until such a time you and your partner feel mentally, emotionally and spiritually bonded before you are sexually involved.
Whichever way you choose to do it, and no matter how much you love somebody, you’ll have a difficult time moving past the problems sexual incompatibility creates in your relationship if you do not deal with it openly, truthfully and honestly.
See how you answer the following questions;
- Are you both open with each other about sex?
- Do you agree on the importance sex plays in a relationship?
- Do you constantly worry that you or your partner will not be sexually fulfilled?
- Do you sometimes wonder if you’d be sexually happier with another partner?
- Do you rationalize for the lack of sexual chemistry in your relationship? For example, do you try to make it somehow “okay” with statements like “Lots of people don’t have fulfilling sex lives”, or “Who cares about sex, anyway?” or ” Sex is often overrated, there are more important things in a relationship” etc)? If you do, red-flag right there!
- Do you find yourself avoiding intimacy (touch, kissing, cuddling etc) because you do not feel sexually attracted to your partner?
- Do you often blame lack of time for the lack of intimate moments?
- Do you and your partner have different sexual needs (how many times, where, how – that kind of thing)?
- Are you or your partner sexually dysfunctional (addicted to sex, pornography, etc)?
If you believe you and your partner are sexually incompatible, it doesn’t help to deceive yourself. By ignoring sexual incompatibility wishing, hoping and praying that it’ll just somehow go away on it’s own is setting yourself up or setting up your partner to cheat soon or later, or for the relationship to go sour at some point.
Related: Can Sexual Incompatibility Be Fixed?