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Comment on How Do I Attract Back An Ex Who Lost Feelings? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

He is holding back because he does not see what will be different if he opens himself up to you, again.

Just saying I am sorry, isn’t enough. He needs to know 1) you really UNDERSTAND why and how your actions caused damage to his self-esteem, 2) you have CHANGED, 3) it’s emotionally SAFE to open himself to you.

Anything less, will not get him back even if he still loves you.

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How Do I Attract Back An Ex Who Lost Feelings?
I don’t usually advice putting too much weight on how soon an ex responds. There are so many other factors in the mix other than just how your ex feels about you, e.g. mode of contact, content of contact, how busy/not busy your ex is, things that have nothing to do with you etc. In this case however, it may be a positive sign that her response time is changing.

That said, don’t rely solely on response time. Look more at the level of emotional engagement. That’s a better indicator of how she feels about talking to you. It may not necessarily be an indicator that she wants you back, but emotional engagement means she wants to keep the lines of communication open, which is always a good thing.


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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


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I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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