Good for you. The more you express how you feel …

Comment on How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Breaking Up With Me? by Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor.

Good for you. The more you express how you feel the easier and more natural it becomes. The only thing I might add is that instead of just saying “you’re being hard on me” which seems to put you back into the victim role, the same thing you’re trying to avoid, something like “I’d appreciate it if you showed me some respect/consideration/appreciation” etc. or something along those lines, is more assertive, positive and empowered.

Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor Also Commented

How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Breaking Up With Me?
That’s the other school of thought; the one that encourages emotional dishonesty and mind games. But here is the thing. Most people who play the “hide what you really feel” game are also the most frustrated in relationships because their emotional needs are not being met.

The person who has the confidence to look into the other’s eyes and share the loving feelings he/she is experiencing; and has the honesty and courage to say “I don’t feel good about” this or that in a calm, gentle and non confrontational manner has the “emotional-power” in the relationship.

Why? Because he or she will have his/her emotional needs acknowledged, shared and addressed/attended to. That’s “emotional power!”

How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Breaking Up With Me?
I so agree with you… trust is key. Trust begins with a genuine interest in the other person’s well being – not just what you can get, trick or manipulate out of them for your own benefit.

I’m happy for you that you came to the realization that not all victims are unwilling victims, and we have to own up to our own actions. All the very best!

How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Breaking Up With Me?
Hindsight is human. It’s important though to remember that the only mistakes we make in life are those that we never learn anything from. If you’re trying to get that “another chance” with him, I hope you take the lessons you’ve learned from the experience and make it work this time.

One of my clients said it best” It is not about getting the person back, it’s about correcting what went wrong and making you and your relationship healthy and happy”.

If not, those lessons are still just as important in your next relationship.

I receive the blessings with humility… thank you.

Recent Comments by Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor

Why Your Relationship Feels Like Too Much Work
Leave him for good and move on with your life or try to make things work out with him is a decision only you can make. I don’t believe in making decisions for others that they should be making for themselves. As a coach, I can only help you with whatever decision you make or whatever side you’re already leaning towards. Making decisions for you isn’t empowering you to OWN your life — and relationship (be responsible!).

When Do You Stop Trying To Get Back Your Ex?
If it makes you feel good to have “closure” contact him and tell him you’ll not be bothering him again. But that’s all what contacting him will do, give you “closure” (hopefully!).

Waiting for him to contact you is unrealistic. They say the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour… he didn’t contact you for 2 months and when you contacted him he didn’t seem interested and hasn’t responded to any of your 3 contacts, what makes you think he’ll contact you?

My suggestion is that you let this go… meaning you stop actively trying to get him back and focus your attention elsewhere. You can try again later if you are still up to it, but for now more contact is useless.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
It might explain why some women seem to all be sharing or recycling the same men.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
There’s that school of thought and I respect your position. However, I’m not saying women HAVE to approach men. Some women like you obviously have a problem with it, and that’s OK.

I think that if a woman wants to take the initiative and own the power to choose who she dates instead of complaining about men not approaching her, or about meeting only losers (who approach her), why try to take that from her with statements like “unless she’s desperate?”

We all should do what we have to do and let others do what they want to do. Makes life easier for everybody… (:

So Why Is My Ex Texting Me Now?
My advice… Grow up and stop playing mind games.

Engaging and pulling away — as in no contact then contact, then pulling away, then contact, then not returning calls etc — is destructive for any relationship.

One of you has to step up and be the adult, if not, it’s going to be like this until the feeling of love and liking is completely gone — for good!

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