It’s hard to compete with your girlfriend’s family – and …

Comment on Help! My Family Hates My Boyfriend by Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor.

It’s hard to compete with your girlfriend’s family – and it must have been hard for your girlfriend to have to choose between you and her family but it didn’t have to come to this. For your girlfriend to buy wholesale into her family’s perception/treatment of you, she must have had her own concerns or issues with the relationship that made it easy for her to agree with her family. If she thought/felt that the two of you had a great relationship and her family was somehow being “unfair” to you, she would not have quit without at least standing up for you and fighting for your relationship.

You didn’t say if you’re trying to get her back, but if you are, my advice is do not lay the blame for the relationship not working on her family because she’ll take sides with her family (again!). Instead try to show that you “get” what wasn’t working in the relationship, know what needs to be done and are doing everything to make sure things will be different and better. You can’t win against her family but you can at least try to win her back.

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Leave him for good and move on with your life or try to make things work out with him is a decision only you can make. I don’t believe in making decisions for others that they should be making for themselves. As a coach, I can only help you with whatever decision you make or whatever side you’re already leaning towards. Making decisions for you isn’t empowering you to OWN your life — and relationship (be responsible!).

When Do You Stop Trying To Get Back Your Ex?
If it makes you feel good to have “closure” contact him and tell him you’ll not be bothering him again. But that’s all what contacting him will do, give you “closure” (hopefully!).

Waiting for him to contact you is unrealistic. They say the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour… he didn’t contact you for 2 months and when you contacted him he didn’t seem interested and hasn’t responded to any of your 3 contacts, what makes you think he’ll contact you?

My suggestion is that you let this go… meaning you stop actively trying to get him back and focus your attention elsewhere. You can try again later if you are still up to it, but for now more contact is useless.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
It might explain why some women seem to all be sharing or recycling the same men.

Should I Reach Out Or Wait For My Ex to Initiate A Text?
There’s that school of thought and I respect your position. However, I’m not saying women HAVE to approach men. Some women like you obviously have a problem with it, and that’s OK.

I think that if a woman wants to take the initiative and own the power to choose who she dates instead of complaining about men not approaching her, or about meeting only losers (who approach her), why try to take that from her with statements like “unless she’s desperate?”

We all should do what we have to do and let others do what they want to do. Makes life easier for everybody… (:

So Why Is My Ex Texting Me Now?
My advice… Grow up and stop playing mind games.

Engaging and pulling away — as in no contact then contact, then pulling away, then contact, then not returning calls etc — is destructive for any relationship.

One of you has to step up and be the adult, if not, it’s going to be like this until the feeling of love and liking is completely gone — for good!

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