“I ignore her… makes me feel wanted and valued” is …

Comment on How To Stop The Silent Treatment by Yangki Akiteng.

“I ignore her… makes me feel wanted and valued” is not just about control, it’s worse. It’s manipulation.

Hurting someone else so as to feel wanted and valued is a sign of low self-esteem, emotional dysfunction and/or immaturity.

One day she’s going to catch up on it… and you’ll be here looking for advice on “how to get back my ex”…

Just saying…

I think you’ll find my article helpful (if you are willing to be helped): Is Playing Mind Games Normal In Relationships?

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I wish you luck!

If what you want is to stay, then give it all that you have before calling quits. There is advice here that helps with ‘communication’ in general as well.


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