“He says he can see I changed and likes it”… Hold …

Comment on Can You Get Back Your Ex When You’re the Only One Trying? by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

“He says he can see I changed and likes it”…

Hold on to that and continue showing him the relationship can and will be better. As long as you are making it clear his place in your life is that of “a boyfriend”, there is nothing to be worried about.

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Can You Get Back Your Ex When You’re the Only One Trying?
I also respect you for the mature and grown up way you handled things… it seems to have paid off. All the signs are pointing towards “good”, but you are right not to overthink it.

Whatever you’re doing seems to be working. All the very best… (:


Can You Get Back Your Ex When You’re the Only One Trying?
In my experience, what is happening with your ex is a case of the heart says ‘yes’, but the head says ‘no’

One possible reason for this is that she still has feelings for you but doesn’t think the relationship can work (may be she’s not seeing enough changes to convince her that things can be different).

The other possible reason is that she’s trying to force herself to move on despite her feelings. When she’s with you, she feels good and likes it, but when you are not together her thoughts or influence of friends and relatives take over.

The third reason, is she’s playing a mind game. I doubt it, but it’s possible.

This article might help: How To Get Back An Ex Who’s Acting Hot And Cold


Can You Get Back Your Ex When You’re the Only One Trying?
This answers your question: At What Point Do You Stop Trying To Get Back An Ex?


Recent Comments by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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