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Comment on Absence DOES NOT Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder by Yangki Akiteng.

Spend a little more time on the site. There is a lot of advice on how to approach getting back someone who says one thing and does another. Read the comments as well, I have responded to many questions with a similar situation as yours.

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Absence DOES NOT Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder
Yes, if they just disappear with no explanation or break up with you via text. They’re showing you they have no respect for you/you have no value to them.

No, if they tell you why they are breaking up with you. You may not like that they ended the relationship or think their reason is valid… but it’s their reason. You can’t force anyone to be in a relationship.

Emotionally mature/competent people when faced with a break-up RESPOND in ways that get them what they want, not REACT to not getting what they want.

That said, if you no longer want anything to do with your ex because of a toxic dynamic, then cutting them off makes sense.

Bottom line: Break-ups happen, it’s how you respond/react to the break-up that makes the difference.

Africans have a saying: Do not burn a bridge if there’s even a very slight chance you might want to walk back that route.


Absence DOES NOT Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder
I have no clue. The “no-contact experts” will probably give you a better answer.

My guess would be to give him more time. For how long? Again, I have no clue. May be next time you break-up with someone…don’t do no contact. They’re not going to be sitting around “waiting” for you to contact them after you are done with no contact.

Personally, if someone treated me like I am easily disposable…. I don’t want them back in my life.


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10 TOP INDICATORS Your Ex Will Come Back
It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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