Do Exes Really Ever Come Back?

Do exes really ever come back?

Yes, exes do come back and yes, a relationship can work after a break-up.

What most people do not realize or know is that most exes when they break-up with you think it’s over, they will not come back.

They are not thinking… “I am breaking up with you, but we’ll get back together”. They are thinking…

  • I am not happy/I am miserable and I don’t like it
  • I don’t feel this relationship is working for me
  • I can’t do what I want to do with you around, I need my space
  • We’re hurting each other and I need to get away from you
  • I don’t like you the way I used to
  • I don’t see a future with you, etc

They are not thinking of getting back together at this point because they are thinking of themselves, how they feel and what they want– and rightly so.

An ex leaving because of how they FEEL (e.g. is not happy, feels you’re growing apart, does not feel in love anymore, feels smothered, pressured for commitment etc) does not think they can feel differently.

An ex leaving because the relationship is NOT WORKING for them (e.g. too many arguments/fights, communication problems, you want different things, etc) does not think things can get better.

Even exes that say “may be we’ll get back together in the future” or “we’ll see what happens in two months” or “if it’s meant to be it’ll be” etc., are not promising that you’ll get back together. Rather, they are leaving the door open for all possibilities — including the possibility that you’ll go your separate ways.

But since feelings can and do change, and many arguments/fights and communication problems can be worked on, there is always a chance that an ex can come back — and many of them do.

When working with my clients, I am always looking for what it is that is within our control that we can work together to change to inspire an ex to feel differently or see that the relationship can work again, and work better.

Unlike most approaches that advice no-contact, I prefer working with my clients to create a positive environment in which love can develop and grow. Years of experience have taught me that the only way you can convince your ex that the relationship can work again is if you can inspire them to feel differently about being in a relationship with you again. How much contact, when to make contact and all that other stuff that too many people waste time on mean absolutely NOTHING if your ex can’t see themselves happier with you than they are on their own, or with someone else.

My point is: Don’t be discouraged from trying to attract back your ex simply because right now your ex is saying it’s over and they’re not changing their mind.

As long as the lines of communication are open, there is always a possibility that feelings can be changed and a new and better relationship can develop. Your job is to create the environment for that to happen and this is where I come in.

You make the necessary changes and do the work to become a better version of yourself, and I’ll help you create the environment for love to happen naturally and organically.

It takes work and it takes time, but it’s possible.

When you feel discouraged and want to give up, these Incredible Success Stories of readers like you who got back their ex might help!

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  • My ex said he had made up his mind and he is the kind to not change his mind. Lucky for me I had found your site so I asked to keep in contact and at first he said what is the point, I am not changing my mind, but then he said yes. I followed the advice in your ebook and after a month of text messaging, I asked to meet up, he said he did not want to give me the wrong message. I waited a week and asked again and this time he relented. We had a great time and were laughing and holding hands. When he walked me to my car he kissed me on the lips and said he does not know what the future holds but he knows that he does not want to lose me forever. Today he initiated his first text and wished me a merry Christmas. I know in your ebook that it is not much to go by but it feels good to know he still wants me in his life. I am going to keep implementing your advice and see where it goes. I really believe we will get back together.

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    • You are right. It’s not much to go by, but it’s enough to show that things are moving in the right direction. What you’re doing is working, so don’t change it or get needy and try to move things faster.

      I believe with you!

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