I think people do change. I have changed over the …

Comment on On-And-Off Again Relationship – When Do You Give Up? by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

I think people do change. I have changed over the years and know so many others that have.

But you have a valid point. Knowing what went wrong, what one needs to change and saying that one will change or has changed is easy to do. Going the extra mile to really change is another thing.

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On-And-Off Again Relationship – When Do You Give Up?
Looks like the two of you are locked in some kind of toxic pattern that is not good for either of you. And it’s not just him… by 1) pressing him to decide, 2) ignoring him and 3) telling him you could only be friends, you too were playing the “control-game”. It’s just that the tables turned on you when he stopped contact. I’m sure if he hadn’t, you would have. That’s the nature of toxic patterns.

Hopefully, this will be a wake-up call for you to stop whatever you two are in to. Things won’t get better just because you break-up and get back together again. Both of you have to change something to stop the toxicity.


On-And-Off Again Relationship – When Do You Give Up?
I so agree with you… if the relationship is worth it, you don’t give up easily, you fight for it. In our “feel good” world, it’s easier to give up than work on the problems in the relationship.

That said, there comes a time when you have to accept that someone does not want to be with you, especially if your trying makes the other person want to get as far way from you as possible.

It’s even possible there is nothing “wrong” with the other person, and nothing “wrong” with you, the relationship just isn’t working or the two of you are just not right for each other. Not every two people are “meant” to be together.


On-And-Off Again Relationship – When Do You Give Up?
You’re right that no relationship is happy, peaceful or joyous all time. However, if one or both parties are chronically unhappy, stressed or angry, then what keeps the two people together is often something else (like co-dependent) other than love.


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