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I’m hoping with you… 🙂
Thank you for your kinds words.

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Communicating Vs. Emotional Connection (Pt 2)
I don’t see how else you can stop yourself from bringing up how much he hurt you other than let go whatever hurt feelings you are holding on to.

Trying to talk it over with him at this stage in the process is just not wise. It will only end up in an unnecessary tension and ruin the warm-feelings and good communication that you have worked hard for. On the other hand, trying to suppress them for the sake of getting along, as you are finding out isn’t helping much. The hurt keeps coming back up.

Letting go is your only option, if you want this relationship to have a chance. There may come a time later on when you are able to talk about whatever he did without so much hurt feelings, or him getting defensive about it. If it’s not something so important that it requires a talk, you may even find that there is no need to bring it up again.

Remember (I have written this in many other articles), letting go is not the same as saying it’s okay that he hurt you or that you deserved it, letting go is accepting that at this point in time there is nothing you can do to change the past, you can only work on making a better future!


Communicating Vs. Emotional Connection (Pt 2)
No, you’re not supposed to take anything. But you can change the way you react and respond.


Communicating Vs. Emotional Connection (Pt 2)
I understand the part about not wanting to lose your dignity, however, I think that something is faulty about your thinking.

1. When someone breaks up with you (3 times), there is a good reason why, at least as far as he is concerned. He doesn’t have to apologize for doing what he believes was good for him.

2. Being scared of losing you is not a healthy foundation for any relationship. In fact many of the things people do to make the other not leave are the very things that make him/her leave.

I don’t know if he will want to be with you again or if this relationship can even work, but if it does, you have to create healthy conditions for someone to want to stay. I know it sounds like it’s all your fault and that you have to do all the work, but that’s because the only person you can change or make do anything is you. You do what you have to do, and do it to your best, and let the rest take care of itself. The more you try to control him or control what happens, the more you will make things worse.


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That’s the way to do it!!! 🙂

Thank you for your kind words… they mean more than you know.

Best wishes and lots and lots of love.


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