It’s very normal for an ex not to want to …

Comment on Communicating Vs. Emotional Connection (Pt 2) by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

It’s very normal for an ex not to want to talk about the old relationship or the break-up. It’s a sign that it’s too early in the process. Given that you have not had enough emotional distance from the old relationship (see my article: Emotional Distance And How It’ll Help Get Back Your Ex), it’s actually a good thing for the long term. It’s not only healthy for the relationship but also good for your chances if both of you are ready to start fresh, not trying to recapture what’s gone.

The best you can do at this point is not pressure him but instead focus on creating that feeling that things are new and fresh.

Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng Also Commented

Communicating Vs. Emotional Connection (Pt 2)
Unfortunately, yes…

The reason most people don’t feel empathy or sorry when you express your hurt to them is because:

1) they don’t think they hurt you (you are just being oversensitive or over dramatic)
2) they don’t believe you are fully aware/taking full responsibility for your role in what happened
3) they think you are not sincere in your apology/regret
4) they don’t believe you have changed/can change

When you “ruined the warm feelings and good communication you have worked so hard for”, you sent the message that nothing had changed. Every time this happens, it gets harder and harder to get the other person to warm up to you.

Make sure you work on what’s causing you to have to restart things over. After a certain number of tries, the other person won’t want to do it again.


Recent Comments by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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