Many confident and independent men and women are often surprised when they find themselves feeling broken, anxious, depressed, needy, clingy and sometimes undilutedly butt crazy when a relationship ends.
Many come to coaching concerned and worried that I might think that this is who they are and how they behave all the time.
- “This is not like me at all.”
- “I don’t know what happened to me.”
- “I have had break-ups before, but this one is different.”
I believe you!
The end of a loving and caring relationship can shake the foundation of who you are and how you perceive your worthiness as a romantic partner. It can affect your outlook, daily activities, and even mental health even if the relationship was not a good one.
For some people recovery can become a lifetime struggle to reclaim oneself and find happiness again, especially these days with social media providing 24/7 window into what your ex is up to and who they are with.
Regardless of where you are on the post-break up timeline and whether you were the dumper or the dumpee, talking to someone other than your close friends or family (who mean well but don’t know how to help or don’t want to be bothered) helps. If you don’t feel like going to therapy or just want to talk to someone who has heard tens of thousands of break-up stories and can add insight to the why and how of it all, I am that person.
Everyone has something they are really good at. Mine is holding a space for others to feel safe, vulnerable and heard.
So if you need a “friend” to listen and provide support in your most vulnerable state; someone who won’t judge you or tell you to “get over” the break-up or “everything’s going to be alright”, but instead holds your hand (virtually) and be there with you the way you need them to, I am that “friend”.
Book an hour with me and vent, cry, as me all the question you have about your break-up, or simply talk. It’s cathartic and healing… and may just be what you need right now.
You don’t have to feel alone.