I try as much as time allows to be the secure base support that is consistently available to you in a meaningful and authentic way through phone sessions and email coaching.
My personal belief is that if I can accurately reflect back to you your emotional experience in a way that makes you feel understood and safe to reach out, connect and engage your ex in a positive way, and with the work you are doing on yourself, you will be less anxious and freer to experiment your new behaviours and a securely attached way of relating with your ex.