Are You Too Alike To Be Together?

Karen and Greg are both quick-witted, confident, romantic, adventurous, fun-loving, ambitious, cut-throat lawyers who love their lives and careers. They both are very social and love meeting new people, seeing new places, and doing the unpredictable and risky.

Mentally, they both love to pursue even the most radical idea to its logical conclusion.  They are also easily adaptable in terms of habits and mindsets.  Emotionally, they are both expressive and believe that when a problem comes up, each side should be heard and appreciated and both people should work together until the problem is resolved.

These two work great as a team. They both believe in equality and have a relationship with no defined man/woman roles. Each came to the relationship feeling that they did not need the other to “complete” them but that they needed a companion through life. They appreciate the other’s need for individuality, are happy away from each other just as they are together. And because they are not joined at the hip, they tend to give each other plenty of space to do “their own thing”.

The upside of “likes-attract” 

Dating someone who has the characteristics you already posses has the advantage of instant compatibility and true communication because both parties have a real understanding of the other’s side point of view.  The idea of “ownership” of a partner is not an issue because each sees the other as “their own person,” and not a missing half of the other.

The downside of “likes-attract” love match

Two very like individuals can create some rather stormy moments if they have strong different opinions about something. Also familiarity can breed contempt, or at least predictability and irritating boredom which can at times be difficult to ignore. And if there is no limit to their “independent lives”, some couples find themselves easily drifting further and further part.

Can it work?

There is a huge body of research that says “likes attract” type relationships have more stability and longevity. But stability and longevity isn’t always happy and fulfilled.

Even two people who have “instant compatibility” still have to face the fact that relationships require effort to keep them strong and positive, progressive and healthy, exciting and passionate.

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Dwayne

The Love Doctor says: “…I still don’t see anything wrong with a woman being strong and independent…”

Strong and Independent Woman = bombastic, LOUD, annoying and dominating wife. Why would a man want to be involved with a woman who talks like a man, dresses like a man and acts like a man?

To be fair you did say she can be “feminine” at the same time 🙂

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Meccosedpen

Thank you for explaining the masculine and feminine balance in one individual. I never really understood it well. What you describe definitely sounds like people not letting nature take its course. The most important thing I am taking away from this post is that love is a personal thing that cannot be applied as a general rule or standard for all people. Relationships are work.

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Sol

Who said I like you??? I said BIGGEST FAN! lol

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