I don’t think there is a cut off time for …

Comment on A Break-Up Vs. A Bad Start – They Didn’t Break-Up With You (NOT Your Ex) by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I don’t think there is a cut off time for when to try to re-establish contact. My general experience has been that the longer you stay out of contact, the less chances that the other person will want to re-establish contact. The chances for very short term relationships are even lower.

Unfortunately, I do not have the crystal ball and can’t tell you for sure what will happen. If you feel like reaching out, I think that you should. He may or may not respond or want contact, but you’ll never know if you don’t try to find out.

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I agree that this is a case of a bad start. Normally I’d say it’s too early to tell if there is hope or not… but she asked you out for dinner in the very first exchange! That’s HUGE.

You have a second chance at making this work, just make sure you don’t step over to the needy side again… (:


A Break-Up Vs. A Bad Start – They Didn’t Break-Up With You (NOT Your Ex)
Yes, looks like a bad start alright. You may have needed more from him than he was able to give you at the time, which is what being needy is about.

As for having sex with him, that’s a decision only you can make. Your body, your decision, I am ultra liberal like that… 🙂

What I mean is, it’s not my place to tell grown adults how to run their sex lives. What I do know as a coach is that sex with your ex can sometimes hurt your chances, but it can also sometimes do no harm to your chances, especially if you understand that having sex does not mean you are in a relationship or that you will get back together.

This explains it more:

Does Sex With Your Ex Hurt Your Chances?

Does Sex too Soon Ruin A Relationship


A Break-Up Vs. A Bad Start – They Didn’t Break-Up With You (NOT Your Ex)
Situations like yours are unfortunately too common. After the honeymoon period, we all start to reevaluate the relationship, and if a red flag goes off at the time we’re reevaluating things, it makes us see the relationship more negatively.

Showing him that you can change is possible if he’s still open to contact. Showing him that you are right for each other (in my experience) is much harder. If you like, we can talk by phone so I understand why he thinks you are not right for each other, and if there is a way to make the relationship work.


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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


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I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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