I hear you! A break-up can leave even the most …

Comment on 8 Simple Rules For Contacting Your Ex (Secure Attachment) by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

I hear you! A break-up can leave even the most emotionally stable of us feeling uncertain and insecure, not to mention cause us to “act out of character!”

Personally I don’t think “emotions” are the problem. Emotions always, ALWAYS have a very useful purpose, besides giving us that “soul-FULL” vibe. Give me someone with “emotions” over someone who is so into the “logical” anytime!… (:

The problem is that most of us are not accustomed (not taught) how to “BEING” with our emotions (pleasant and painful) in a healthy and empowering way. We think we’re being “ruled” by emotions but we’re really being ruled by our own lack of experience dealing with emotions in a healthy way — emotional dysfunction and/or emotional immaturity!

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As mentioned in the book, that’s expected. Keep doing what you are doing.


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Since you are in contact, you don’t want him later asking why you didn’t tell him you’ll be home for the holidays, and use that as an excuse to start blaming you again. Let him know you’ll be in town and you’d like to get together, then leave it up to him to decide if he wants to see you, or not. If he doesn’t respond, call him when you get there. If he still does not respond or turns down your offer to meet, don’t pursue any further.


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I’m hoping with you… 🙂
Thank you for your kinds words.


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In the context of attracting back your ex, yes.

Go to “All Articles” in the menu and select “Attachment Anxiety & Avoidant Ex” category or type “attachment anxiety” in the search tool and read the articles that come up.


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I know… 😉


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Type “emotional connection” in the search tool and there are several articles on how to emotionally connect with an ex. My book ‘Dating Your Ex” also has examples of how to go about making an emotional connection. But if you want more specific advice tailored to your unique situation, your ex’s personality and your ex’s attachment style, I am happy to coach you on how to emotionally connect with him and move things forward.


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Spend time on this site and you’ll learn how. Balancing closeness and respect for the other’s boundaries is exactly what the site is about.


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