It’s possible that something about her makes you feel you …

Comment on 6 First Date Tips – How To Act When You See Your Ex by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

It’s possible that something about her makes you feel you do not deserve her and even an innocent comment is magnified because of your own issues. But it’s also possible she’s one of those people who has to put others down or make them uneasy in order to feel good about themselves.

If you still love her and think things can work, go VERY slow and see what’s she’s like now. This does not mean you analyze her but rather analyze the new dynamic between the two of you. What feels comfortable and what feels uncomfortable? What old patterns show up? What old feelings come up?

Do not fool yourself or gloss over things just to get back, that’s just courting a broken heart. If you can’t see things being different and better, then it’s possible that the two of you just can’t make it even if you still both love each other.

Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng Also Commented

6 First Date Tips – How To Act When You See Your Ex
I don’t think what he did was right. But if you still care about him and somewhere inside you want to try the relationship again at a later time, then go. It’s just two people who loved (and may still love) each other meeting. You don’t have to get back together right away or even soon.

All the reasons why the relationship didn’t work before must be fully addressed (resolved) and he has to prove that he can be trusted not to hurt you again.


6 First Date Tips – How To Act When You See Your Ex
It’s not unusual for an ex to still have some feelings after dumping you but just not enough to want to be in a relationship with you right away. One great date isn’t enough for you to know for sure. Continue doing what you’ve been doing and pick up more momentum before you ask her out again. Momentum ensures that things are moving forward naturally, and not just you trying to force them to happen.


Recent Comments by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng

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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


Who Should Initiate Contact – Dumper Or Dumpee?
I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


What to Do When Your Ex Sends Mixed Signals
I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


What Not To Do When Your Ex Wants Space
You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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