I agree that there can be value in time apart, …

Comment on 6 Psychological Reasons People Use No Contact by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

I agree that there can be value in time apart, for SOME people, situations or relationships. The catch is that it’s of value only if it’s done the right way, for the right reasons, and with a clear agreement and/or reasonable expectations.

It also depends on the bond between two people. If the bond is so weak (one or both parties have been distant or not connected for a while), time apart may actually hurt instead of help. In such cases, it’s best to try to become closer and more connected than stay apart and become even more disconnected/grow further apart.

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The way you presented the situation before was a little different. After reading this… you are not going to like what I have to say…

” you never let me break up with you” sound like words from someone frustrated with you being needy and clingy. I don’t think it’s necessarily being mean trying to extricate yourself from someone who is suffocating you. It’s survival.


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It’s indeed a cruel way to treat someone. Reality though is that you teach people how they treat you. He treats you cruelly because you are ALLOWING it.


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It’s always heart-warming to read stories like yours, and I accept the thanks. But as they say, any advice is only as good as the person using it. You made it happen for you.

And you’re right, there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship, but there are relationships that are close to perfect.

I am happy for you! All the VERY best.


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Doing right towards each other is a testament to your love and to the level of personal growth you’ve both achieved. I hope that you’ll both attract someone radiating at the same level of maturity. Much respect!


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I see your point, but what if she doesn’t come to you, then what?

Your relationship definitely needs to change, but it’s not going to change just because you change who reaches out first and/or tries to make things work.


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I am glad to be of some help.

I hope all goes well.


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You will not be disrespecting her request because you are not asking her to get back into the relationship/be a couple. Her request was not to stop contacting her but to give her space away from the relationship so she can grow as a person.

So go ahead and initiate contact while keeping her request in mind. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that two people take a break with the intention of creating a better relationship, only to regroup and things are the same, or worse, there is no relationship.


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